The early interrupted movement towards the mother has far-reaching consequences for later life and for our success.
How does this manifest itself in detail? When such children later want to approach someone, for example a partner, their body reminds them of the trauma of early separation. Then they stop moving towards the partner. Instead of approaching the partner, they wait for him or her to approach them. When the partner really gets close, they often find it hard to bear their closeness. They reject the partner in one way or another instead of welcoming and accepting him or her happily. They suffer from this and yet can only open up to the partner hesitantly, if so, often for a short time. They have a similar experience with their own child. They sometimes find it difficult to bear its closeness.
Behind almost every trauma is a situation in which a movement that would have been necessary was not possible, so that we remained immobile in it as if rooted or paralyzed.
How is such a trauma solved? It is solved in our feelings and in our memory if we go back to this situation in spite of all fear and inwardly recover the movement that was prevented or interrupted at that time.
What does this mean for an early interrupted movement towards the mother? We go back to the situation of that time, become the child of that time again, look at our mother of that time and, despite the emerging pain and the disappointment and anger of that time, take a small step towards her - with love. We pause, look into her eyes and wait until we feel within us the strength and courage for the next small step. We pause again until we succeed in the next small step and the next small steps, until we finally fall into the arms of our mother, embraced and held by her, finally one with her again and with love for her.
Later we check, also here at first inwardly, whether we succeed in this movement with a beloved partner. We look into their eyes, and instead of waiting for them to move towards us, we take the first small step towards them. After a while, when we have gathered enough strength, we take a second step. In this way we continue to walk towards them, slowly step by step, until we take them in our arms and they take us, until we hold them and let them hold us, happy and for a long time.