Education for what?
Education serves life, it prepares us for the most important things in our lives. What is the most important thing?
The most important thing in life is to stay alive. Therefore, education prepares us to know and experience how to feed ourselves in a way that we remain healthy and able to pass on our personal life with the help of a partner.
Our own family
Education should enable the children and young people to enter into a sustainable relationship with a partner later on. Therefore, through education, they are introduced to the basic laws of human relationships as they have come to light through Family Constellation. This includes:
- a. Completeness
Everyone who has once belonged has the same right to belong. If they are denied this right, they are later represented by a child who takes over their fate without realizing it. That is why, in the education of those who expect something decisive from us, we look for that which has not been mentioned in their origins, in order to bring it home to their soul. In this way they are released from the entanglement in what is missing in their family.
The question is: how can the educator succeed in helping the student to find this release?
If the educator has previously found freedom in themselves and in their family and has found back to unity with all, that is, if they have become empty of these entanglements. The parents must first become empty of these entanglements. They pass on to their children the entanglements in which they were caught. Therefore, educators involve the parents of their students in this movement. How? First, with respect for their involvement and without reproach. They are on the side of the parents just as they are on the side of their children. Education thus becomes a service to life in a comprehensive sense.
- b. The right position
Closely related to this order is a second one. It assigns an unmistakable position to each one. The order of precedence is determined by the time of entry into this life. That is, one who was born earlier has a higher position than one who came into this life after them. Therefore the parents have a higher position than the children and the first-born child has a higher position than the second born after it.
This order of precedence applies to all organizations. Therefore, the educator has a higher rank than the student and the parents have a higher rank than the educator. At the same time those who were there before serve those who come after them. Thus the parents serve and support the teachers, and both parents and teachers serve the children.
Our own profession
In education, many people assume that it serves primarily to prepare for professional life. This takes up most of the time and requires full commitment. But later on, the profession serves primarily to earn one's own living and with it the support of the family, which passes on life to its children. The educators have this hierarchy in mind when they prepare their students for their later profession. In this way the school and the educators are involved in a comprehensive sense through the parents in the service of life and its passing on to the next generation.
What would be the disorder here? If work and professional life absorb the family, if parents are taken up by work in such a way that the care and education of children is passed on to substitutes, including teachers and educators, the basic order of passing on life is violated.
The question is: Can educators direct this movement in a way that respects the basic order and, within the limits set for them, give parents and children and their relationship the place they deserve? One possibility is if educators involve parents to a large extent in their care for their children and keep them informed.
This already pushes the educators to their limits. In a clear sense, this is a challenge for politicians and employers. They must guarantee the conditions that enable parents and, through them, educators to give the highest good that we have the place and time they deserve: children.