- Bert Hellinger
- Sophie Hellinger
- Family Constellation
- Cosmic Power®
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The Hellinger sciencia® Constellations by Bert and Sophie Hellinger are mediated through the Hellinger®schule and their lecturers in the training course for “Original Hellinger® Family Constellators“ worldwide.
In a course in Israel I demonstrated constellation work. There was a young man who said he wanted to have a look first before participating. After the first session he agreed to stay on for the course.
His family had travelled to Egypt with a group. He was eight years old at the time. At the border, an Egyptian border control guard shot out madly in all directions and killed eight children, amongst them the man’s sister.
I placed the children who were shot, the Egyptian guard, and the client. The client did not want to look at this; he turned away. Nothing moved in him.
Then I took five Palestinian children who were killed by Israelis, and had them lie on the floor. With this, movement in the group began. Some of the Israeli children wanted to go to the Palestinian children, but they pulled away.
Then I placed representatives for the parents of the murdered Israeli children and parents for the murdered Palestinian children.
The Egyptian border guard went over to the parents of the Israeli children, and he cried. The client went to the parents of the Palestinian children. They embraced. The Palestinian children crawled over to the Israeli children.
What could we see here? It is only when we look at everyone involved and give them all a place in our heart that these children find peace.
In the bible there is a story. There was one man who had five talents, and he didn’t do anything with them. Another man had only one talent, but he surpassed all others. He did something with it.
I’ll tell you another story. There were two men sharing a sleeping car on a train. In the upper berth was a man who kept mumbling to himself: “I am so hungry, I am so hungry.” Eventually the man in the lower berth got up and brought him something to eat.
After a while the man in the upper berth started again: ”I was so hungry, I was so hungry.”
I found out that there is only one thing that matters in helping, something really simple. There is only one way that leads to success. We bring the person into contact with his or her mother and father. That’s all. For some it is easy, but some struggle a bit, especially those who still have complaints against their parents, or against others.
I’ll tell you another story from Israel. In a course there was a participant who came from Germany. His father survived Buchenwald. I placed the victims who died there, and the participant’s father. The victims were afraid of him.
Then I placed two representatives for the perpetrators. The representative for the father went to the perpetrators. In his energy he was also a perpetrator. The client presented like a victim, but here he hid behind them. He also had perpetrator energy. As this came to light, I interrupted.
We cannot work with someone who presents as victim. As long as they do this, they are aggressive towards others. They also make those angry who want to help them.
I participated in an exercise once. Someone drew rectangles on the floor, three of them in a row. The first rectangle signified ideal parents. I stood there, and I was asked how it felt to have perfect parents. Then I stood on the next rectangle. It signified the worst possible parents. Again I was asked how it was. Then I stepped into the third rectangle. It represented my parents, as they were. Again, I was asked.
What was the result? I felt the same in all three positions. What does this show us? Everyone has the same chances, if they want it.
I told the son of the Buchenwald survivor what I just told you. Later he came to me, quite changed. He said: “Now I understand.” He went to one of the organizers and said: “Now I have given up my victim state.” He gave up presenting as a victim and expecting and demanding pity.
Some who grew up in homes or who were adopted also have this tendency to blame others. Once they have gotten over it, they can say: “Yes, that’s how my parents were. They are okay for me like that. I got everything I need. Others have helped me along, and now I do something with it.” Then this person is free, able to leave this past behind and to look ahead.
Exercise: You and me
I’ll do a little exercise with you. You can close your eyes.
Now you can look at your life and imagine all the people you are angry with. They all stand side by side, those who harmed you, and those you harmed, both.
You go to each one. You look them in the eyes and you say: “I am like you, exactly like you.” You sense what goes on in your soul as you say this, and you move on to the next one: “I am like you, and you are like me.” And on to the next one. You look this person in the eyes and you open your heart: “I am like you, you are like me.”
After a while: When you have finished, turn to the horizon, together with them.
Again, after a while: It is still dark, and the light is still hidden. Before this hidden light you bow together.
Years ago I went to the Sea of Galilee, to the place where Jesus gave the Sermon on the Mount. It is a wonderful place, all silent, all peaceful. There Jesus said: “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God.” And he said: “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.” And: ”My heavenly father lets the sunshine over the good and the bad and the rain fall over the just and the unjust.” We all know that.
On our way back I imagined: What goes on in the soul that really opens up to this? What exactly does it mean? When we feel our way into the soul, when someone can do this, what must be going on for this to work?
Then a sentence came to me: Love means acknowledging that all others are the same as me before something greater. Humility means the same, forgiving and forgetting also … acknowledging that all others are the same before something greater.